We accept the love we think we deserve.

- The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky

If we could only accept love when we think we are not worthy, we would be able to give it much more freely. Love isn’t earned. It’s a gift. If we love like we feel we are worthy of being loved, it should be no surprise when hate wins, when love fails us and when we fail to find love. As a gift, love is a also a choice – we choose to give it – we choose to accept it – and, sometimes, we choose to withhold it.

Choose to love. Choose to give it freely and choose to accept it with open arms. The only risk in receiving love is losing it, and, if you only accept it when you feel worthy, you are losing it every time you don’t. Choosing to love is only a risk if you don’t do it. You can get hurt loving others, but when you choose to love, unconditionally – without regard for it being returned, there is only the joy in loving.

Love can be an act of kindness when no one is watching – a simple gesture without any expectation of a reward. It doesn’t cost anything and it doesn’t require a huge effort on your part. It can be as simple as a smile, a thank you, or even a hello.

Choose love – not because the person deserves it, but because he or she needs it. Choose to accept love – not because you feel worthy, but rather because you are.